I could mull over all day what to write here, but the fact of the matter is:
This first post is always the most awkward.
- What does the reader expect?
- Who I am?
- What I will write about?
- Do I write well enough to entertain the writers needs?
But the truth is, I have no straightforward way to answer those questions or provide you proof of an answer. What I can tell you is WHY I decided to create this blog.
This isn’t my first time, that’s for certain. When I was younger, I wanted the world to know my feelings and validate me- which was all a cry for attention that I felt I was deprived of (which still isn’t wrong, however it wasn’t the best way to cope with that feeling).
As I have grown and learned myself, I have stumbled upon something big.
Larger than life.
A monumental decision.
Something that had been a fleeting unattainable thought until now.
I’m not a lesbian.
Shocking, I know! Any one who knows me, knows I have this running gag of all lesbians like gay guys. It’s just a “lesbian thing”. Just as all straight guys like lesbians. I’m using the term all very loosely here.
What brought about this notion was my friend asking my partner,
“What does (Lost Boy) identify as?”
I didn’t give it much thought at first. I liked being boyish. But I liked being a girl sometimes too. I thought…I’m just boyish. Or…sometimes, I could like being a guy. Maybe I’m gender fluid? Which is a term I had to look up.
The more I pondered, the more I researched. The more I researched, the more I realized.
I was not comfortable with the term lesbian. But I had earned the label by being a female what is attracted to other females. I went through the hardships of acquiring that title. The pain of having to come out of the closet every time I moved schools. The agony of having to come out to my parents not once, but TWICE (I was received with complete denial the first attempt).
Now, the reason I’m starting the blog, before I get too carried away, is next.
I think I’m pretty sure I’m gonna go out on a limb and say —
I’m a boy.
To document my feelings, my relationships, and my journey as I discover this statement, which I hold to be self-evident, I have created this blog.
I don’t seek my feelings to be validated. My goal is not to gain attention (as I will be using Pet Names for all of my friends and family.
My ultimate goal is to be a guide and/or an example for those who are also just Lost Boys and Girls.